As children grow into teenagers and young adults, their push for independence sometimes clashes with the need to stay vigilant about their food allergies. It’s important for teens to feel independent and make their own choices, and fitting in socially is also important to them at this age. Parents still play a key role in making sure teens with food allergies are kept safe. Here are some tips to consider when navigating food allergies with your teen:

 

Avoid lecturing or arguing
Teens are different from younger kids. Teens often already know what you want them to do. It’s more effective to enforce important safety rules calmly. Repeating rules or scolding can lead to resistance or shutdown rather than cooperation.

 

Negotiate where possible
Carrying an epinephrine device is non-negotiable if someone has food allergy. However, finding areas where you can compromise gives teens some control and ownership. For example, agreeing on how they carry their epinephrine (type of device, carrier, style, etc.).

 

Allow them to take the lead
When dining out, allow your teen to ask questions about ingredients and food preparation. If taking your own food or snacks on a trip, allow your teen to plan ahead for the trip and help decide what to bring. This will also prepare them for navigating the adult years ahead!

 

Use tech to your advantage
If your teen forgets their epinephrine often, have them set reminders on their own phone or smart watch.

 

Help them choose a safety network

Help your teen choose a few close friends who know about their allergy and how to treat it. Knowing you’ve got back up can make social situations less stressful.

 

Use positive reinforcement

Encourage your teen to speak up about their food allergy in social situations, even if they feel social pressure. When you catch your teen doing something “good” –such as asking about ingredients or declining a food they are not sure is safe –praise them for this later. This positive reinforcement can help build confidence in managing their food allergy long-term.